Therapy & Coaching
for Relationships
Let’s create a roadmap for your relationship based on true intimacy, honest communication, and a sex life that fits who you are now.
LIFE IS FOREPLAY
LIFE IS FOREPLAY
INTIMACY DOESN’T BEGIN
IN THE BEDROOM
It begins in the kitchen. In the car. In the tone you use when you’re stressed. In how you handle disappointment. In whether your partner feels respected, chosen, and safe with you.
Growth, Expansion, & Better Sex
Growth, Expansion, & Better Sex
The way you speak to each other matters. The way you repair after conflict matters. Who carries the mental load matters. How you show appreciation—or withhold it—matters.
Life is foreplay.
Intimacy: Rebuild It — or Make It Even More Interesting
Sometimes therapy is about repair: “We miss each other. We don’t know how to get back.”
Other times it’s about expansion: “We’re solid — but we want to evolve.”
I help couples:
Rebuild intimacy and trust after distance, hurt, resentment, postpartum seasons, or life transitions
Work with mismatched desire (without blaming either partner)
Create a sex life that feels mutually pleasurable, not obligatory
Explore erotic novelty, play, and “new chapters” — at your pace
Reduce pressure and performance anxiety and increase connection and confidence
20
Years Helping Clients
29
Years in Women's Advocacy & Empowerment
10k+
Hours Helping Clients
“The most Healing, insightful, and deep Self-Discovery Journey I could ever imagine. ”
Initially when I started working with Dr. Alysondra – I wanted to get off the rollercoaster that I had been on with romantic relationships for truly my entire life. Little did I know I would embark on the most healing, insightful, deep, and self-discovery journey I could ever imagine. She asked me questions and challenged me even when I resisted it. And because of her incredible talent, support, commitment, and guidance I have been able to create a life that I only dreamt of during my darkest days. I continue to use my toolbox filled with many different strategies we worked on, and ways to now move through difficult situations that still may trigger me. I feel secure, grounded, and oh – ended up with my love of my love who I am currently planning my wedding with.
-An Incredible Woman
A Roadmap for Long-Term Couples + Newer Couples Building a “Nest”
If you’ve been together a long time:
We’ll revisit the foundation and update it for who you are now. Long-term love requires reinvention — not because you’re failing, but because you’re evolving.
We’ll work on friendship, conflict patterns, roles at home, emotional connection, and how to re-create a shared erotic language that fits this season of your life.
If you’re a newer couple:
We’ll build your foundation intentionally — including the conversations many couples avoid until they explode later:
Sex expectations and desire differences
Money, labor, mental load, and “who does what”
Boundaries with family, social life, and technology
Values, commitment, and future planning
Creating your unique relational “nest” — the culture of your relationship
Whether you’re re-founding or first-founding, the goal is the same: clarity, connection, and a relationship structure that supports both love and desire.
“But, Wait…What Does All of this intimacy stuff have to do with just wanting to have better sex!?”
Everything.
Couples often think their issue is sex — when the real issue is that if LIFE is foreplay, no one is feeling very turned on.
Let me say more about that:
Safety is sexy. If you don’t feel emotionally safe and cared for, your body often won’t respond or feel ease enough to be sexual.
Resentment kills desire. Unspoken needs and inequity at home become a bedroom hardship.
Life as foreplay. How you speak, repair, flirt, touch, share labor, and handle conflict throughout the day in the every day all contributes to your erotic connection.
Life is messy. Stress, hormones, trauma history, ADHD, anxiety, work schedules, family stuff — it all comes with you.
In our sessions, we work together to help you build communication that actually creates intimacy in the relationship:
how to make requests and hold personal boundaries,
how to repair conflict,
how to talk about sex without it turning into shutdown or defensiveness,
and how to become a better team in the day-to-day so the hope of it someday getting better isn’t carrying the whole relationship.
That’s where I come in…
I help couples to overcome the unconscious patterns, outdated arguments, and harmful beliefs that are keeping them stuck…
so they can rebuild connection, reignite desire, and create a relationship that feels authentic, empowered, and deeply fulfilling.
The Process
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First, We Chat
I need 15mins to talk with you and your partner by phone to see if we’d make a great team. I get a sense of what’s happening for you, and you ask any questions you might have for me.
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Then, We Meet
In our first session, you’ll share the story of your relationship — where you’ve been, what’s working, and where you’re feeling stuck — and together we’ll begin mapping out a clear, thoughtful path forward.
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We Fine-Tune
We’ll tailor our sessions so you have time to embody the shifts we’re making — from how you speak to one another to how you reach for each other. Together, we’ll keep refining the path toward a relationship that feels connected, confident, and deeply intimate.
Relationship Coaching & Therapy
Relationship Coaching & Therapy
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Couples Sessions Online or In-Person
I meet with clients online or in-person in my Bellingham, WA office. Whether we meet virtually or face-to-face, our sessions are collaborative, structured, and deeply attuned to your relationship’s unique dynamics. You’ll leave each session with clarity, direction, and practical tools to strengthen connection, communication, and intimacy.
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Strategic Blueprint
We’ll define the kind of relationship you want to be living — emotionally and erotically — and design a pleasure-forward strategy to help you get there. Your blueprint will be customized to your patterns, your strengths, and the intimacy you’re ready to create.
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Customized intimacy “homework”
Each session ends with a personalized practice designed for your relationship. These aren’t generic exercises — they’re intentional tools to help you communicate better, reconnect emotionally, and rebuild intimacy at your own pace.
The real transformation happens in how you show up with each other in daily life. Our work simply gives you the roadmap.
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Your Investment
Couples sessions range from $200–$250 per session. I recommend beginning with a minimum of six sessions to allow us to build momentum and create sustainable shifts in your relationship.
*Pricing varies depending on session time (60, 75, or 90mins). Please inquire for special pricing for marathon sessions and couples weekends.
Relationship Coaching
Yes, your relationship can feel even better.
Our quality of life is deeply impacted by our relationships. When our relationships aren’t feeling great we aren’t either, but over time and with the right guidance, those challenges can become opportunities for growth, intimacy, and deeper connection.
I offer couples coaching to help you and your partner communicate more effectively, rebuild trust, and reignite passion. Whether you're facing conflict, want greater intimacy, or to strengthen your relationship, I provide a supportive and encouraging space to navigate it together. Let’s work on creating the love and partnership you both are seeking!
About My Approach to Couples Sessions
I bring a grounded, empowered, feminist lens to couples therapy — especially around sexuality.
Many women were socialized to be the “pleaser,” to override their own needs, to perform, to manage everyone else’s experience, and to disconnect from their own pleasure.
In our work, we shift that:
Pleasure becomes a shared, empowered experience — not a service you offer to others
Consent, agency, and voice become central
We address shame and build sensual empowerment and confidence
We make room for nuance: identity, culture, religion, trauma history, health, and the realities of modern partnership
Credentials + Influences:
I’m a Psychologist and Board-Certified Sexologist, a Certified Integrative Sex-Informed Therapist, and currently working toward AASECT Sex Therapist certification.
I currently enjoy learning from Esther Perel, Terry Real, Dr. Tammy Nelson, and Dr. Ellyn Bader — blending depth, practicality, and real-world tools with the courage to talk about what couples actually struggle with.
And, my approach is eclectic. It draws from psychodynamic theory (I like to know what might be informing who and how you are today, and any internal messaging that might be getting in the way), along with feminist, multicultural, and humanistic traditions, with additional integration of ACT, DBT, and CBT techniques. I am especially passionate about supporting couples and LGBTQ+ clients, creating affirming, inclusive spaces to navigate intimacy, identity, and connection.
If you’re ready:
Couples therapy can be a place where you stop surviving your relationship and start creating it — intentionally, honestly, and with more pleasure.
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Both. For the most part, it’s easiest to meet on Zoom. However, if you are in the Bellingham, WA area I may be able to meet with you in person (though those spots are limited!).
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For the most part, I work in packages. I want to be able to help you create AND sustain the change you’re making. However, if you do need a single session please let me know and we can customize.
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YES! I love teaching and speaking, and would LOVE to talk with you about what you or your group is needing.
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YES! Please contact me and let me know about you, your podcast name, and the subject you’re hoping to cover! I love media like podcasts and radio so would be thrilled to be a guest.
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I have had the privilege of earning: PhD in Counseling Psychology, and a Masters and Bachelors in Women’s & Gender Studies, and am also a Board Certified Sexologist.
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The package prices vary depending on which package you go with. Contact me for the most updated packages and I’ll send that to you ASAP.
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No way. I’ll want to understand a little about where you come from so I know even more about what may impacting you now, but I mostly focus on helping you to get out of your own way and move forward.
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Yes, I do and I love that! My approach is non-religious and I like to meet with a couple at least 5-6 times (6 is preferred, some couples prefer to meet for more than this). We cover a wide range of issues like: Finances Sex Life Morals/Values/Beliefs Navigating Conflict Roles in relationship and household Overall lifestyle (including children, pets, home care, etc.)
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Yes and YES. In fact, many of the couples I work with are same-sex couples. I have many years of experience in this realm, have taught classes on enhancing queer relationships, and also identify as queer! YAY!
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Yes, I really like to help couples experience greater intimacy, pleasure, and fulfillment with sex. If you’re a longer term couple, it’s easy to feel like that spark has faded but I can help you re-ignite.
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Yes! I love couples and LOVE so much I became an ordained minister with the United Life Church. I can work with you and your partner to design a ceremony that feels like YOU, and is not based in religious doctrine.
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Sadly, no, but I do think you can share that couples coaching doesn’t have to be about anyone doing anything “wrong,” and instead is an awesome preventative step that could bring more joy and closeness!
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Yes, because sometimes a single hour isn’t enough. I offer extended “marathon” sessions for couples who want to immerse themselves in the work — whether for practical scheduling reasons or because you’re ready for a deeper relational reset.
Focused, intentional time allows us to move beyond surface conversations and into the emotional and intimate layers that truly shift connection. We’ll pace the experience thoughtfully — with breaks, grounding moments, and space to integrate — so we can create some real change for you!
Ready to Make Some Changes? Let’s Go!
Life is foreplay, my friends — how you interact each day throughout the day matters. You’re taking a step to have the life and relationship that feels more aligned and that’s awesome.
In a free 15-minute conversation, we’ll talk about where you are, where you’d like to be, and the kind of intimacy you’re ready to build. It’s a chance to see if our work feels aligned and collaborative. Choosing this step is already an investment in your connection — and I can’t wait to see what unfolds for you.
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