Quiet the Inner Critic
Whenever I'm trying to figure out big life decisions, my critical mind starts going and maybe yours does too.
It says things like:
"What are you thinking!?"
"You’re f*cking everything up!"
"Why would anyone be interested in what you’re selling/doing/talking about?"
"It’s too late for you."
Siiiiiiiiiiiigh.
These thoughts can get ugly sometimes. Can I get an amen!?
So while I'm sorting out some life "things," I decided that voice could
NOT be at the wheel.
So, I gave myself a simple assignment:
Every day I will list what I’m grateful for
Every day I will list 3-5 things I actually like about myself
And, also, I will work to be my own friend and DO BETTER with that relationship, and…
Pleasure and self-care will be my #1 focus
That last point is especially compelling to me, and something I assigned students in my group coaching program as a challenge.
Seek out pleasure.
You have 5 senses, and can engage them at any time.
And, it doesn’t require you to add more to your “to-do” list.
Pleasure can be added to what you’re already doing right now.
So, here’s some examples I provided students and wanted to share with you here:
💗 You already need to eat dinner, so add some fresh flowers or candlelight.
💗 You already need to wake up in the morning, so before you hop out of bed take time to stretch your body or turn on some music and let it move you into a mini AM dance party.
💗 You already have coffee, so pull out the fine china or order a mug that makes you feel like royalty.
💗 You already need to shower, so play some French music or your favorite sultry song.
💗 You’re already getting ready for work (even if you’re staying at home!), so pick fabrics that feel good on your skin or wear lipstick just for fun.
💗 You already do something like read before bed, so light a candle and read something on pleasure. (See my reading list here)
When we live pleasure-based lives, we are turned on and TUNED IN. Which means we can create even more awesome energy for things like money-making, new creative business or life ideas, enhance our relationships with important people in our lives, or even more clearly see the things that are NOT working for us.
Go have fun. Have more pleasure.
I’m cheering you on from here!
xo,
Dr. Alysondra
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