This last week I got some big news (that I hope to share at some point) and it has been all things shocking, saddening, exciting, disappointing, hopeful and completely overwhelming. What could have been an amazing opportunity to isolate and “check out” turned into a chance to slow down, practice some MAJOR self care, and honor all of the feelings I was having.
I invite you to consider the following (when feeling any of the above): in what ways can I nurture my soul (dancing, reading, writing, sleeping?), how can I keep some of the things in my life consistent so that I have SOMETHING familiar (showing up to work, going to a weekly class, following through with friends, etc.), and WHAT DO I NEED RIGHT NOW? Ask yourself this ALL THROUGHOUT THE DAY. Is it comfort, a hug, normalcy, acceptance, touch, assurance? And then consider how you may be able to provide yourself with this. If your first instinct is “I need a drink!” (or something of the like), then consider what that drink is providing you (respite from your troubles, the ability to take a break from feeling, a way to connect) and consider if you may be able to obtain these things in a way that is a bit more nourishing. Or at least for now, have the drink AND consider what you may truly be needing.
Me dear friend sent me a print with this poem by nayyirah waheed that arrived in the mail yesterday. It came with perfect timing:
“put some honey and sea water by your bed.
acknowledge that your being needs sweetness and cleansing.
that it is sore.
that you are soft.”
Take good care,