I have these times when I feel an undoubtable longing for connection. Here I am, sitting (somewhere) and wanting complete strangers to befriend me. Trying to be “cool enough” in my corner. Working on feeling a combination of interesting, confident, open, and appropriately aloof.
The city of Seattle is known for “the Seattle Freeze” and BRRRR…. I feel it. The “freeze” is known as this: you connect with a potential friend, someone you think is cool, and you GENUINELY feel like you’ve got a new bestie on the brink!
And then this happens: You text. No answer. You call….wait. Who calls anymore?
You think to yourself: What happened? What did I do? So, you try again.
Then, you may be met with something like this: “Oh sorry to not get back to you! I have been crazy at work and it’s hard for me to schedule anything. I’ll let you know when I’m available.”
You think, again: Oh, wow, we really connected and now they seem disinterested. I thought we would be buddies, I thought I had a new friend.
Here is why: people in this city are highly interesting AND highly busy. There are also A LOT of introverts (is this a generalization!? Absolutely!! And, I am still happy to make it)…those creatures (and I am one) who gain their energy by laying low and taking time to themselves.
So, what to do in the freeze? Tend to YOU first! Take care of you. Do things that make you feel good, energized, alive. Take yourself out to a drink or dinner if you can’t find someone–you deserve this! And, trust that in time you will find “YOUR PEOPLE.” Stay tuned for my friendship tier….it will be out soon! And, believe that the more open you are to possibility, the more people will be drawn to you. Sign up for activities you enjoy (for you first) and then maybe you can have a shared interest with someone new.
Friendship is out there. You can survive this freeze. Warmth and love will come.
Love to you,