I have decided in running my own business that I will no longer work on Mondays. This is in the interest of self care and avoiding the culturally sanctioned “dreaded Mondays.” I want my week to begin in the most peaceful, loving, and grateful state it can possibly be (and I realize the privilege in a decision like this).
Yesterday was a Monday. It was all things gorgeous: sunny, crisp and cool, falling leaves, and on and on. I decided to begin the day outside and go for a run (read: a walk/jog’ish). I bring my credit card (the 187 chapsticks in the house have all disappeared and I want to buy 12 more), my phone (running on a 30% battery), and a key.
I realize upon arriving home after the aforementioned walk/jog’ish that this was the wrong key. I am locked out. Again. This is the third time I have done this in the last 2 months.
Okay–So, there is a choice point here: I can 1) begin lamenting the fact that I am locked out, this is supposed to be my peaceful day, my food is inside, I don’t have the right clothes on for this, shame myself for locking myself out for a third f*cking time and then spiral down into my very own self-created dreaded Monday. Or, I can 2) attempt to MacGyver this situation on an empty and soon-to-be hungry stomach and attempt to hurl myself through the front window in the interest of “peace.” Or, 3) I can just go get some coffee and lunch with that card I brought to pick up 12 more chapsticks and continue to enjoy this weather until I figure something out.
I chose option #3.
In making this choice, I unknowingly charted the course of my day. Instead of stressing over a dying phone (now at 20%), I pick up the local paper and read something non-virtual. Rather than bullying me and my day by literally pushing myself through a window to make things go well, I remain open to what the day had planned for me. I took deep breaths, payed attention to the sunshine, looked in tiny shops in my neighborhood, made conversation with a beautiful bearded barista, walked longer, and stretched more.
Not to get all Pollyanna, but I had this thought: “how cool that I was locked out of the house and forced to find a new way to enjoy this day.”
We have a million choice points each day. In most situations, we have the opportunity to decide how we want to perceive what is happening. Traffic? Great! More time to list my gratitudes. Bridge is up? Perfect. I needed to finish my breakfast I rushed to make and now I can breathe. Car is dead? (This was last month) Awesome. I wanted to add more walking to my day and also try to use public transit a little more.
Take some time throughout your day to practice awareness of the many choice points you have along the way. Notice when they arise. And, take a moment to think through how you can make this seemingly stupid situation into a day that actually rocks.